Monday, February 12, 2007

Why it's great to be single on Valentine's Day

As the official Hallmark holiday of the year looms near, single gals all across the world fantasize about turning Cupid's arrows back onto himself. But must Valentine's Day for the single gal be all doom and gloom? Here are six reasons why it's great to be single on Valentine's Day:

Reason #1: Single gals have the freedom to buy their own gifts.

As couples are snapping up roses, chocolate, and heart-printed boxer shorts (all at a premium, I might add), you can be snapping up some merch of your own choosing, like a new pair of high heels. Being single also means that you don't have to stress about what to give your quasi-boyfriend on Valentine's Day.

Reason #2: Single gals can spend a relaxing evening at home.

While couples wait in restaurant lobbies, Single gals are already feasting on takeout from their favorite Chinese place and watching Thelma & Lousie. And before the couple is through their appetizer course, the single gal is running herself a hot bath, lighting aromatherapy candles, and plastering her face with a bright green mud mask. The couple is still lingering at their table, waiting on the check for their outrageously expensive meal, as the single girl settles in with a pint of Haagen-Daz cookie dough ice cream and a bodice-ripping Harlequin novel.

Reason #3: Single gals deserve the best in spa pampering.

Take the day off work and treat yourself with a day at the spa. Splurge for the works, including a massage, facial, manicure and pedicure. Most spas run great specials around Valentine's Day, so your day of relaxation won't make an excessive dent in your wallet.

Reason # 4: Single gals know how to party.

Valentine's Day is the perfect holiday to host a theme party. Three years ago, a good friend of mine created an event called "Chocopalooza," a feast of chocolate for Single gals who had no place to go on Valentine's Day. The event is not replete without a dark chocolate fondue, double-fudge brownies, and even chocolate martinis. The chocolate smorgasboard is followed by a viewing of Chocolat. Let's just say that I've known not-so-single-gals to skip out on their boyfriends to attend this event. Another idea is to take a cue from the Sex and the City girls, and host a "trade your ex" party. Each girl brings a guy that she doesn't want to date, and the mingling begins! Or, throw an "anti-Valentine's Day" party, and have your guests wear black, display dead flowers, and serve your guests these.

Reason #5: Single gals express love.

Valentine's Day isn't just about romantic love. Use the holiday as an excuse to show love to those who may not receive it very often. Volunteer your time to become a mentor at a battered women's shelter, or visit your local nursing home and play bingo with its residents. Love is about selflessness. I guarantee you will have a rewarding Valentine's Day if you express love to those around you.

Reason #6: Single gals use Valentine's Day as an opportunity to build character and self-esteem.

Repeat after me--my relationship does not define my identity. You are fabulous, whether you want to admit it or not. Take a few minutes on Valentine's Day to list the things you love about yourself, or better yet, write yourself a love letter. Shower on the self love already!